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Hide-the-Word Wednesday: Too Much of a Good Thing?

Like many people, I paid a great deal of attention to the news this past weekend.  It was a lot, even for me.  On Saturday, I consumed news in one form or another for almost the entire day. That night, I watched the Democratic debates and went to bed shortly after.
My first waking thought on Sunday, was of the candidates’ statements about recent events.
I was saturated.
I can think of much better things to saturate my mind with.
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Is there anything taking up too much space in your mind?
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Praying “At” Your Husband?

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If you have been married any length of time, you have probably heard a sermon, read a blog post, or purchased a book encouraging you to pray for your husband.  Five years ago, I met with a group of ladies every Saturday morning for a few months to pray for our husbands.  If you search the New King James version of the Bible, you will find over 300 uses of “pray,” “prayer,” “supplication,” or “intercession.”  Prayer is essential, and that includes praying for your husband.

But do you ever find yourself praying at your husband? What do I mean? Well, I imagine praying at your husband to be kind of like looking at God and saying, “You and me, God, we’re here.  We understand each other.  Can You help him get with the program?” Or maybe, “Fix him, Lord.”

Perhaps you would never utter such words in prayer. But I’m talking about a very wrong attitude you can have in your heart, even while doing a very good thing like praying for your husband. This attitude is also characterized by:

Being more concerned about what your husband does (or doesn’t do) for you, than about his spiritual, mental, and emotional welfare
Priding yourself on your “spiritual maturity,” while overlooking the areas of your own walk that require “fixing”

And how do I know so much about praying at your husband? I have to admit, I’ve had lots of practice.

For a picture of the right attitude, let’s look to Jesus.

~~ Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others. Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus, who, although He existed in the form of God, did not regard equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied Himself, taking the form of a bond-servant, and being made in the likeness of men. (Philippians 2:3-7) ~~

But what if your heart is too hurt, too angry, too tired? What if all you can manage is attitude prayer? Should you just not pray at all? How can you shift to truly praying for your husband?  Again, God’s Word has the answers:

1. Confess.
Speak to God honestly, from your heart. There’s no point in lying to Him anyway. 🙂 Confess your anger, pride, and bitterness. And ask Him to reveal to you the issues that you don’t even know about.  Whatever is, lay it all before Him. He has good news for you.

~~ If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. (1 John 1:9) ~~

I have also confessed my pride to my husband, but I wasn’t telling him anything he didn’t already know from my words and demeanor.  (Even when we think we’ve disguised those attitudes really well, sometimes they seep out anyway.)

2. Consider who your husband is in Christ.
A few years ago, my husband and I took a video course based on the book Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas. During the third session, Thomas says, “Your wife isn’t just your wife, she is God’s daughter … If you want to revolutionize your marriage, think of God as your Father-in-law.”  When you go to God in prayer for (or at) your husband, you’re talking to God about His son, too!  (Why was this mind-altering to me? Isn’t it obvious??)  This doesn’t mean that you should sugar-coat or “spiritualize” your prayers.  Again, be straight with God.  He cares about your heart’s desires. But He cares about your husband’s just as much. You are—both of you—precious to Him. And if you both confess Jesus as Lord, then you are both His chosen people, royal priesthood, holy nation, and special possession (1 Peter 2:9). Meditating on that is bound to change the way you pray for him.  I encourage you to download this PDF and meditate on more things that God says about His precious son and daughter.

3. Keep praying!
I hope I haven’t given you a complex about praying at/for/about/around your husband!  We really don’t have to wait to “get right” before we can pray.  We are invited to boldly approach God’s throne, where will receive grace and mercy.  He can change our hearts, work miracles in our relationships, and give us indescribable peace.

~~ Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.  And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. (Philippians 4:6-7, underline added) ~~

Just remember when you pray, that it’s not you and God against your husband.  He loves both of you very much.

Thanks for stopping by,

Susan

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Surprise!

Are you ever surprised when God answers your prayers? In the past several days, I have prayed for God’s direction on two specific questions. The answers did not come right away, but as some days passed, I believe that He showed me the answers that I sought on both issues. And I have to admit, I was surprised!  Then again, what did Jesus say about asking and seeking?

So I say to you: Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.

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Has anything recently surprised you, but shouldn’t have?

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We Have a Winner!

I want to say a heartfelt, “THANK YOU!” to everyone who stopped by Wisdom for Wives to celebrate the one-year blogiversary.  I was actually moved by the prayers you shared and will continue to pray for God’s blessings on your marriages and finances.  And now, without further ado, the winner!

A new copy of The Power of a Praying Wife is going to Kathy, who shared a prayer to be a good wife, a good steward, debt free, and successful in her business.  Congratulations, Kathy!

The Power of a Praying Wife, (c) 1997, 2014, Harvest House Publishers

The Power of a Praying Wife, (c) 1997, 2014, Harvest House Publishers

Thank you again to everyone who continues to bless this blog.  Please pray with me that the truth will always be spoken here in love.

Susan

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It’s a Blogiversary! And a Giveaway!! (The Power of a Praying Wife)

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Happy blogiversary to Wisdom for Wives! It has been one year since this blog was born, but the words have been in my heart for much longer. Years ago I awoke to the impact on my marriage of my financial ignorance and apathy. Since then, I’ve wanted to encourage other wives to be more involved and informed than I was, and I’m so thankful for the opportunity to do that here.  I’m also grateful to everyone who has read, liked, commented on, inspired, or encouraged this blog.

To celebrate and say, “Thank you,” I’m giving away a brand new copy of The Power of a Praying Wife (© 1997, 2014, Harvest House Publishers).  In this book, Stormie Omartian shares her testimony of God’s answers to prayers for her husband’s faith, health, handling of finances, and more. But I have to warn you, it’s not a guide to changing your husband in 31 days. 🙂 In fact, in Chapter 1, Omartian confesses her need to pray about her own heart and attitude towards her husband. I have read and prayed from this book—especially the first chapter—many times during our 13-year marriage. And I would love to share it with one of you!

To enter the giveaway, head down to the comments section and share a prayer that you have for your marriage or your finances. The winner will be selected at random from the participants who comment by 11:59 PM (UTC-4, Washington, DC time zone) on Saturday, August 9. Then come back on Sunday, August 10 for the announcement of the winner!

Thanks for stopping by!
Susan

{Disclosure: I did not receive any compensation in connection to this post or giveaway. I purchased the book with my own money.  Well, our money. :)}

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